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i'm back.......

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..... with a shiny new internet connection, phone line and cable TV! Did you miss me? It seemed like a long time to be without internet, but our Sky TV was set up almost straight away so i've been enjoying watching that, especially the kids channels during the day with the little ones and the movie channels in the evenings with Sir.

Not much to report from the last couple of weeks, except for a really bad night with William's seizures which almost saw us down the hospital again :/ But thankfully he has been more settled since. Poppy loves the animal channels on the new Sky TV and was over the moon to find a programme on sharks the other day! Finn loves the kids channels, his favourites are "Nick nick" (nickelodeon) and "Dinny" (Disney). And he's started this new thing of "lookie" at everything where he spends ages pointing to things to get your comment. The other day he was doing "lookie" with pictures in a book and i was commenting along so he was quite happy, until for one of them i didn't actually look just made the comment and suddenly there was a pause. "Mummy NO lookie" in a very shocked tone of voice and i looked up and little Finn was sat there staring at me, so i had to say sorry and look properly at what he was showing me and the game continued quite happily. Sometimes that boy is too darn smart!

Hope to get this blog updated soon, in the meantime have a great weekend!

libby
xxxx

Bank holiday ramblings

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Laying here in bed with the kidlets on this Bank Holiday Monday, i haven't got the brain power to write a proper post, but i'm aware there's a few things that have happened i haven't posted about on here yet, so this is going to be one of those 'catch-up' posts, hope you all don't mind too much. Basically these are the things that have happened since i last wrote here 2 weeks ago:


- Finn has become even more cute, if that were possible. One night last week William was having really bad seizures and didn't seem to be coming out of them properly, so i gave him the emergency meds (diazepam) and we got ready to rush to the hospital in the middle of the night with all 3 kidlets (again) if that didn't work. Luckily the diazepam worked and he had no more seizures that night, though it really knocked him out (prolly the combination of the seizures and the meds to be honest) and poor little William was pretty much out of it the next day. Finn slept through much of the drama, but he must have taken some of it in because a couple of days later when William had one of his usual nightly seizures i went in there to find Finn had climbed into William's cot and was snuggled up next to him, squeezing his hand and saying "S'OK Wills...... Finn here" to comfort him. Which was just the cutest thing ever and so mature for a 20 month old! Once the seizure had stopped i scooped up both boys and we sat on the glider chair together, gliding and hugging until both boys fell asleep and i put them back in their beds. That incident (and some others) made me realise it wasn't such a good idea to give the boys separate bedrooms as i had been planning to, though we're still going to redecorate for them as they're currently in the nursery they first went into as babies.
- Speaking of redecorating, we've done a lot! The kitchen and bathroom we left as they were as they were both done not so long ago, but pretty much everything else has had or will have a make-over! The hallway is now an apple green with chunky cream furniture (console table, coat hooks, storage bench, etc) with seagrass baskets to hide all the junk; the lounge is now caramel brown walls with some nice sunset pictures, a new corner sofa with footstool and 2 swivel chairs with footstools (both big enough for 2 adults to snuggle together) plus oak furniture and a new 40" TV; the kids' playroom has been repainted with a 'jungle' wall scene and some bigger wooden chests to store all their things (1 each with their names on); our bedroom has been repainted duck-egg blue with new voiles and curtains, bed linen, floating shelves with nick nacks and i got a new dressing table, mirror and stool. That's where we're up to so far and i plan to decorate the loft room next to William's sensory room so that Poppy can move up there (she's so excited about being "in the roof") and then redecorate the boys' room in a more grown up theme (and get William his first ever bed as he's still in a cot). Very exciting and so nice to be in a 'new' house as Finn keeps saying!

- Speaking of Finn (again)... we had to make a trip to A&E in the week when our little scamp decided to shove a wheel from one of his cars up his nose and i couldn't get it out. To be honest i was more annoyed at the toy manufacturer because it said the car was safe for children over 18 months and it clearly wasn't if the wheels come of that easily, but i was relieved that the doctor at the hospital managed to get the thing out of Finn's nose without too much fuss, even though Finn was shouting "bad man!" at him the whole time (for some reason Finn associates doctors with being bad, probably because he's seen them do lots of things to his brother). Finn continues to challenge us daily with his antics of running, jumping, bouncing, climbing, tipping, piling, posting, ripping, flushing, wedging, banging, dropping, throwing, eating, smearing and licking. i'm going to start trying him on small amounts of weak tea each morning at breakfast to see if that has any effect (caffeine is meant to calm down kids with ADD or ADHD type conditions).

- In William news, the therapies are going well but slowly. William will now participate in some of the ABA tasks when an adult starts doing it with him and then gradually fades out their help. He has definitely cottoned onto the reward part of the procedure and seems to look forward to his daily time with Carla, so i'm hopeful that we're doing the right thing in this regard. No real breakthroughs on the 'floortime' therapy as yet but it does give us a nice bonding time together each day, so i'll continue with it. William continues to make prgoress with his sitting balance and the amount of time he can sit independently, though it is hugely affected by how tired he is and whether he is brewing for a seizure or not. He has started reaching out for and playing with toys whilst sitting by himself, which is something i could only dream of before and i now have hundreds of photos of him doing this! William is still fairly restricted in the types of toys he will play with, due to their texture, material, weight and also because he doesn't 'play' in the traditional sense, but he does love musical, noisy and water toys. It also seems to be getting easier to feed William these days, so i am going to try introducing some new foods into his diet soon, when i've got a bit more energy as i know it will be a battle at first. (BTW, thanks to everyone for their recommendations of other therapies that work for some kids with autism, but we've chosen our current therapies and are sticking with them for now. i've heard too many stories about 'this therapy is the best' or 'this treatment can cure autism' to know to be sceptical about them - sorry).

- Poppy is excelling at nursery and can't wait to go to school in September. She's already been enrolled in the 'gifted and talented' scheme in advance as she's so far ahead of where she should be for her age (she can write words from memory, sound out others in order to spell them, read whole books, recognise numbers to 100, and so on and she's not quite 4 yet!). Poppy has been watching as many animal programmes on our new Sky TV as she can and she can tell you plenty of facts about a growing range of animals. i think she might be the next David Attenborough when she grows up!

- me and Sir are doing well and going strong. i continue to follow the rules and serve Sir in as many ways as i can and Sir continues to train me once a week, so long as we can get the kids out of the house. Yesterday's session involved some quite heavy whipping with the single-tail, certainly the most severe whipping i have ever received and i was right there with Him the whole time, struggling to stay on top of the pain, yes, but not experiencing any of those feelings of worthlessness and panic that i had once before with this whip and that made it be a hard limit. So today i have lovely marks all down my front and Sir is very proud of me!

OK, think that's all for now. Hope to do another post later in the week.

formspring.me #89

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i have answered another formspring question:

"Do you or your Sir have any tips for weeding out the fake Doms online? I would really like to find a good mentor/trainer online as you did but not sure how to get past the imposters!"

For some reason the 'share with blogger' button wasn't available today, but you can read my response here: http://4ms.me/KmWMNL

Funny little Finn

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Just got time to write a quick post about what happened yesterday. i was in the supermarket with the boys doing some shopping, William was sitting in the baby seat at the front of the trolley and Finn was walking next to the trolley wearing his special backpack with the strap that i can keep hold of so he doesn't run off. i've found this is the best way to shop as the boys are too big for both of them to sit in the trolley seats now and if Finn rides in the back of the trolley he tends to squash all the food. Of course, walking next to the trolley means he will grab things off the shelves but he hasn't dropped or broken anything so far, so it's been OK until now....



So yesterday we are shopping and i am momentarily distracted reading the cooking instructions on the back of a pasta bake sauce jar when suddenly i hear Finn: "Noooooo nap-nap (nappy)!" and i turn to see that he has somehow managed to remove his (wet) nappy and thrown it like a frisbee into the trolley of a passing shopper! Many apologies and explanations later i retrieve the offending nappy, then have to find a shop assistant to watch my trolley as i take the boys to the toilets to get a fresh nappy put on Mister Finn, accompanied by much giggling and "glah"ing and clapping from him.

At least my days are never boring!



Happy Birthday Poppy!!

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It hardly seems possible that it's been 4 years that i gave birth to my first little baby or that that baby has grown up into such a smart, beautiful and mature little girl. But it's true - my little Poppy poppet turned 4 on Friday. We celebrated by taking her out to a children's version of a ballet which she loved followed by a birthday tea for all the family at our house, with plenty of cake (which Finn hasn't stopped asking for since: "more cake?").


Everyone had a great time, Poppy most of all, which is what it was all about and we even persuaded William to try a little mashed up cake. The theme of the birthday tea was 'pink princesses' chosen by Poppy herself and she gave us a little ballet performance of her own. She got lots of presents, which she seemed very happy with, and went to bed one tired and contented little girl. Of course, being in the UK means that she will start school this September, and whilst Poppy is very excited about that i am a little nervous and also rather sad. The end of an era is coming to an end and i will never have my little girl back in quite the same way once she starts 'proper' school. i know that change is inevitable and i have so much to look forward to as she grows up, but part of me wants to keep her just as she is now forever.

Anyway, happy birthday Poppy. i love you and look forward to spending the next year laughing and making fun together.

Here's to the Queen

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i know many people think it's pointless and a waste of money having a royal family in this day and age and that the Queen's Diamond Jubilee celebrations have been over-hyped, but i'm actually really proud of having a Queen and i love all the pomp and ceremony that goes with it. And judging by the crowds at every changing of the guards ceremony at Buckingham palace, so do plenty of other people. i have seen the changing of the guards a few times, been round Buckingham Palace (very opulent), visited the Tower of London and seen the Crown Jewels, seen Horse Guards Parade and always watch the Trooping of the Colour on TV.

So i am very excited about watching all the celebrations on TV this weekend and we've also chosen to join in several Jubilee parties, BBQs and fetes as well. Yesterday and today Poppy chose to dress up as a princess and Finn insisted on dressing as a monster (think he got confused with Halloween!). Finn just wants to eat all the party food and keeps asking for 'more cake?' but Poppy is also interested in seeing the carriage procession, the horses and the jewels and crowns. She understands that the Queen is celebrating being the Queen for a long time and this is why we're having a long weekend and parties. William of course doesn't really care about any of it but is happy to have his family around him this weekend.

So in a little while we're all sitting down to watch the boat pageant live on TV (sailing up the Thames) while we have a 'picnic' style lunch sitting on blankets on the carpet. And i've been reading lots of books, souvenir brochures, newspaper articles and so on about the Queen recently, and have found out lots more about the history of the Royal family and the Queen's job in particular. And i have a lot more respect for her as a result. People tend to think that being the Queen is easy, surrounded by wealth and every need you have attended to and being waited on by servants and eating fancy foods, but it's actually really hard work and means you never get a moment to yourself, you have to have loads of boring meetings and read tons of paperwork, attend functions that you don't really want to go to, get sent all over the world but can't sightsee or relax, constantly live with the threat that someone might try to harm you and can't ever just pop out to the shops or go to the cinema etc like normal people can. Your whole life really is dedicated to 'serving' the country, although admittedly it's a different type of 'service' from mine as a slave - mine is to one person and is a very submissive role, but even so the Queen's service takes just as much sacrifice and dedication as mine does.

So, here's to the Queen and i look forward to celebrating her 70th Jubilee too! (Link to a sweet song that i played for Poppy on YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gEqC8_I7Bhk )

Complex little critters

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i've finally begun to figure out some things that help to soothe William when he's having a bad day and help to calm Finn down a bit and stop him being quite so hyper. Of course, some of these things i've known about since the boys were little, but there's some new tricks i've acquired recently, so i thought it would be worth documenting them here (more for me than for anyone else as i use this as a kind of diary, but others are welcome to make suggestions if they have any). Oh and btw for those who don't know William has tuberous sclerosis, epilepsy, sensory processing disorder and autism and Finn we highly suspect has ADHD or something similar.

William:
William can be a rather grumpy little bunny at times, sometimes we think this is due to his epilepsy - when he is either brewing for a seizure or tired because he is recovering from a bad one - also this can be caused by his sensory sensitivities which make him protest very loudly if he experiences a noise or texture which he doesn't like or if something touches his head or feet. William also has sudden rages where he headbangs, screams very crossly and gets aggressive and destructive for no apparent reason, we think on account of his autism and developmental delays, which must be very frustrating for him.
These are the things i have found to soothe William:
- certain songs, particularly classical music for babies
- being in a darkened, cool room
- repetitive 'droning' sounds like the washing machine or the hoover
- brushes or fingernails trailing up and down his arms
- skin to skin contact such as snuggles, massage, etc
- some aromatherapy oils (i make up mixtures myself)
- being able to watch trees, especially if the wind is blowing through them
- being in water (bath, paddling pool, swimming pool)
- being near a large body of water such as a river, lake or the sea, especially if there's boats moving about
- listening to the sound of ducks quacking

Finn:
Finn is a whirlwind of destruction and mischief, always on the go, has boundless energy, very impulsive, constantly getting himself into scrapes, throws himself around, loves running, jumping, climbing, wedging himself in, rolling, bouncing, tipping, pouring, posting, dropping, throwing, stripping naked, smearing, piling, ripping, etc. Finn has already had quite a few injuries, made countless messes and destroyed a large number of items. He finds it very difficult to sit for any length of time at all, can't ever be totally still, has a very short attention span, never finishes anything, races from one thing to the next, is loud and boisterous and exhausting.
These are the things i have found to calm Finn down a little:
- giving him very weak tea first thing in the morning
- repetitive rocking, gliding or swinging motions
- massage with firm pressure
- rhythmic stroking of his head
- being near (large) animals
- letting him fidget with something in his hands if he has to sit down
- some aromatherapy oils
- being outside with lots of space (park, woods, beach)
- weighting him down (e.g. with sandbags on his lap)
- being near the sea (or even hearing the sea)

So i'm hopeful that armed with this knowledge i can help both my boys be more calm and focused, as well as finding new ways to help them everyday.

Oh nooooooo!

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i feel like the worst mum ever.

Finn was being his usual Finn self, racing round the house, getting into all sorts of mischief. Sir and Poppy were preparing the dinner together in the kitchen (Poppy loves to help with the cooking) and i was doing some therapy with William. Suddenly there was a loud thump from the playroom followed by the sound of Finn screaming. i ran in there and saw him on the floor holding his arm in a funny way. Turns out he climbed onto the windowsill and jumped off, landing on his arm on the floor.

After 4 hours in A&E the verdict is in.... Finn has broken one of the bones in his wrist and now has a plaster cast on his arm from fingers to elbow. He seems fine with it, already running around the house and using his plaster cast to thump on things like the walls and doors, "glah"ing at the noise it makes. He was actually really good at the hospital too, apart from his usual "bad man!" shout at every doctor who came to see him. When he was asked what happened he said "Finn go booooooom!" which i guess is his way of explaining what he did.

i know that kids have accidents and i know that Finn is likely to have more than usual due to his insatiable energy, impulsiveness and complete lack of fear. He just seems really young (22 months) to have a broken bone already and i also feel guilty that i wasn't watching him due to spending time with William (again). i wish i had been there to stop him or catch him, but i wasn't. So now poor little Finn has to wear a plaster cast for at least 4 weeks while his bones heal.

That's all i have to say about this.

Summer

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It seems like it's been ages since i last posted here, but the past few weeks have gone by in a blur of William's therapies and appointments, Finn breaking his wrist and trying to get him to keep the plaster cast on long enough for it to heal and Poppy's last few weeks at nursery before she goes to school in September.

Now nursery has broken up for the summer holidays it feels like summer has suddenly appeared from out of nowhere, the weather is nice and sunny after weeks of rain and there's lots to look forward to:

- the Olympics start in London this Friday and i'm looking forward to watching it on TV plus we have tickets for the athletics on Aug 6th which i can't wait to go to. i've bought a UK flag and Olympic mascot soft toy to wave as i cheer on all the GB athletes. i think the atmosphere is going to be amazing and just to say that i was there and part of it, it will be a once in a lifetime opportunity.

- our wedding anniversary is coming up (July 25th) - we will have been husband and wife for 3 years, though to be honest it feels much longer than that. i've already got Sir's present and we've arranged for the kidlets to go to their grandparents' so we can celebrate alone.

- i have a friend's wedding to go to on Aug 3rd and i can't wait as i loveeee weddings. It sounds like it will be a really perfect day, from all the arrangements she has talked about, and i have my outfit planned and my gift bought already!

- my birthday is coming up (Aug 4th - the day after the wedding) and Sir has planned a surprise, which doesn't involve the kids apparently because once again they're being looked after by my parents - thank goodness for grandparents because i don't know what we would do without them. Sir won't tell me what the surprise is, just that He has tickets for it and we have to travel to get there - wherever 'there' is...... i will be 33, which feels quite old but i am getting used to being in my 30s now, especially with 3 kidlets which makes me feel more grown up.

- we have booked to go away on a little family holiday to the seaside for a week, but we're going a bit further afield than last time, though still in England (not allowed to say exactly where). We're going to be staying in a B&B right next to the beach and it's a traditional seaside town with plenty of activities to keep the kidlets amused.

- while we're away on holiday it will be the boys' 2nd birthday, so we're taking their presents with us and having a special day out to celebrate. i can't believe my little Finn and William are going to be 2 already, it seems like they were only just born, but on the other hand it's hard to remember what life was like before we had them. Hopefully Finn's cast should be off before we go away, so he'll be able to celebrate his birthday in true Finn style!

Think that's it for now, will try to post here more frequently over the summer. Bring on the sun!

Genius

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So it seems that little Finn may be something of a genius. i've always known he is very bright and has great understanding. And he's met every milestone early, including walking and talking. But due to his hyperness and excessive energy it's difficult to get him to sit down and do any type of 'learning' activity, so up till now it's been hard to figure out just how clever he is.

And then today i got out some 'therapy' toys for William which we bought a while ago but haven't used yet. They're different sorts of posting, stacking and nesting toys, like shape sorters, stacking beakers, Russian dolls, inset puzzles, etc. William's targets are more to do with reaching out, grasping, lifting and releasing, rather than him being able to sort the shapes or order by size or anything. But i left the toys out on the floor after working with William for a bit and noticed that Finn was playing with them in between zooming in and out of the room and despite never having seen any of those toys before he could do all of them perfectly - no trial and error, no mistakes, no testing them out. Just getting all of them correct first time (even knowing that the beakers could be built into a tower one way and stacked inside each other the other way). He didn't even seem to look at them properly, looked like he was grabbing shapes or puzzle pieces or beakers at random, but put each into place straight away. Finn was able to post all of the shapes into the correct holes, stack the beakers in size order, then nest them in size order, fit all of the pieces into the inset puzzles (3 different puzzles with the pieces out at the same time) and replace the lids on the Russian dolls and nest them correctly. Without even seeming to think about it.

i was sitting there watching him, kind of amazed, and then halfway through working with the stacking beakers he stopped picking anymore up. So i thought he was stuck and didn't know which one he needed to put on top next, so i picked it up and showed it to him then went across to put it on top of the stack and it wasn't until i went to do this that i realised it was the wrong one and that the beaker he needed was missing. It had rolled under the chair so that neither of us could see it, but whereas Finn instinctively knew the beaker he needed wasn't there, i couldn't tell until i tried one. So my not-quite-2 year old is smarter than me! i think he may turn out to be some kind of genius, at least in spatial awareness or measures, shape and space type activities :)

Go Finn!

Finn issues

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This week has been mainly full of issues, all related to Finn, and though Sir and i also celebrated our third wedding anniversary on Wednesday, i'm going to concentrate on the 'problems' in this post, as often i find that writing about them on here helps me see them in a new perspective.

Anyway, on Monday i got a call from Finn's nursery to say that he had swallowed a coin and i would need to take him down the hospital. i'm not even going to get into a discussion about how he managed to get hold of a coin at nursery, i know Finn well enough to suspect that he wedged himself into a tight gap and found a coin there that nobody knew about...

So i took him down the hospital, along with William and Poppy (who is off nursery now due to summer holidays) and he had an x-ray which showed that yes he had swallowed a coin, but it seemed to be 'moving along' and should be passed naturally within a couple of days (which it did). Then the doctor looked at Finn's notes and got all serious when he told me that he's going to have to inform social services because Finn has had lots of hospital visits and he's not even 2 yet. i know it looks bad on paper - bump to the head causing an 'egg', deep cut to the head requiring glue, putting a marble up his nose on 2 separate occasions, breaking his wrist and taking the plaster cast off twice, swallowing a coin and probably some others i'm forgetting about - but surely one look at him tells you he is a healthy, happy, well-cared for little boy?

Social services have yet to turn up on our doorstep, but the GP did phone the next day and ask if i wanted to make an appointment to discuss Finn's 'behavioural issues' in more detail - i've already mentionned Finn's hyperness to him and he told me he's too young to be assessed for any of the related conditions. But now it seems that a phone call from the hospital has made the doctor take me seriously. So we went for the appointment yesterday, he asked me lots of questions about Finn, and has referred us to a specialist in assessing and treating behavioural and conduct disorders in very young children. We haven't got the date through yet, but it should be in the next few weeks. Part of me is glad this is happening and we might get the help that Finn needs, but part of me hopes he is just a 'normal' little boy who happens to be particularly exhuberant in his method of exploring the world.

Oh, and then the nursery manager had a meeting with me, during which she explained that staff are finding it difficult to 'appropriately support' Finn at the moment because he is too loud, too boisterous, too energetic, too fast, too impulsive, too reckless, too accident-prone, too messy, too destructive, too impatient, etc. i thought she was gearing up to asking me to remove Finn from the nursery altogether, so was rather defensive at first, but it turns out she wanted my permission to put him on 'Early action plus' which means he will have his needs assessed (by the nursery) and be given extra support and supervision and possibly special physical and/or sensory activities throughout the day. Which i'm all for. She also asked if she could have him assessed by an ed psych if it became necessary and i agreed to that too, because the more support Finn can get, the better right?

i'm thinking that we're probably going down the ADHD route here, even though my research tells me that kids rarely get diagnosed below the age of about 7. In fact it's quite rare to get diagnosed below the age of 5 and here's Finn not even 2 yet already on the ADHD radar of a number of people and going for an assessment with a specialist soon! Part of me wants him diagnosed and part of me doesn't, but mainly i just want some advice on how to keep him safe and validation that it's not my fault he keeps hurting himself. Especially as his tantrums are getting worse lately, and he can become very destructive and very loud when thwarted in any way at all. Luckily he hasn't been aggressive yet, but i fear it's only a matter of time..... The nursery have told me of a number of incidents involving the other children, such as Finn pushing crayons up kiddies' noses (he just said "uppie nose" when i asked him why), trying to push children off the top of the slide while shouting "fly!" and trampling over children sitting on the ground whilst he zooms around. None of which sound like deliberate acts of harm to me, but still they must be difficult for the nursery staff to deal with.

i guess we'll just wait and see what happens.

Another year older

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On Saturday (4th Aug) it was my birthday and i was 33 years old. i got lots of lovely presents and cards from friends and family, and the kidlets had made their cards (with Sir's help for the boys) and Poppy had made her present for me this year too, which makes it even more special. Sir chose me a lovely present, as always - i'm lucky that's He's very good at choosing gifts without needing to be given hints or ideas, as some men do!

But what i wanted to post about here wasn't the presents, lucky as i was with everything i received. Instead i want to write about my birthday treat, which Sir had organised as a surprise quite a while in advance. All He would tell me is that He'd arranged for the children to be looked after at their grandparents all day (and overnight too) and that He had booked tickets for somewhere. But that's as much as i knew. i love surprises, but i am also very nosey and curious and it was difficult for me not knowing where we were going.

So on Saturday morning, after breakfast and taking the kids to my parents, Sir drove us to the train station and we caught the train to London, then the tube to Euston Station and then another train to a station called Watford Junction. i had no clue what was at this station, i couldn't remember ever hearing about it before, so i was dying to find out where we were heading for. And as we walked out of the station and turned the corner i saw a big double decker bus waiting outside, with 'Harry Potter film studios tour' painted all over it and i knew what the surprise was! And it was a great surprise as i love the Harry Potter books and the films. i was sooooo excited! It only took 10 minutes to get to the film studios on the bus, then we had some lunch in the cafe there as we had tickets for 1:00pm and it wasn't time yet. We had to queue a bit to get in, and then there was a short film about Harry Potter in a little cinema, but after that the tour properly began and it was brilliant!

It started off in the Great Hall, and we actually went in through the huge double doors just like you see in the film. The hall was very impressive with big stone gargoyles all along the walls holding torches, a huge fireplace, huge stained glass windows, the long wooden tables with chairs you see in the films, complete with silver goblets and plates set out for dinner and the teachers' table at the top of the room with Dumbledore's big golden lecturn in front. There were also mannekins set out round the sides of the room wearing the actual costumes of the actors, including Harry's robes as he grew and all the teachers' costumes. It was great and i took lots of photos! The only thing that was disappointing about this room was the ceiling as it was just a normal one - the enchanted sky effect was added in later after filming.

The rest of the tour was self-guided and you could take as long as you liked. We saw lots of the film sets, including Dumbledore's office, the boys' dormitory, Hagrid's hut, the Weasley's house, the Potions classroom, the Gryffindor common room, Umbridge's office in the Ministry of Magic plus lots of other details such as the portraits wall, the griffin statue at the entrance to Dumbledore's office, the muggles statue and fireplaces from the Ministry of Magic, the snake entrance door to the Chamber of Secrets, the entrance door to the vault in Gringott's Bank, the fireplace in the Leaky Cauldron, the ice sculpture from the yuletide ball, the huge chessmen from the first film and lots and lots more. Plus there was Hagrid's motorbike, the Weasleys' flying car, the Knight bus, the broomsticks and the cart from the bank vaults. i had my photo taken on the motorbike, in the car and a special photo of me in wizard robes, riding on a broomstick with London in the background! We had to queue up and pay extra for that photo but it was worth it!

Outside there was some of the exterior sets such as Harry's parents' house, the Dursley's house from Privet Drive, the bridge at Hogwarts and a few more, plus there was a refreshments stop where me and Sir bought some butterbeer and it was delicious! We also got to see lots of the costumes, the wands, the props and all the way round the tour were notice boards and video screens giving away some of the secrets behind the filming. It was really interesting. My two favourite areas were the 'Creature shop' which showed how they made all the non-human creatures, such as the goblins, dragons, trolls, house elves, death eaters, and they had working robotic creatures, such as Hedwig the owl, the mandrake plants and Buckbeak. i loved this section, it was so interesting - my two favourite creatures were Dobby the house elf and Fawkes the phoenix. The other best part of the tour was the model of the castle - it was hugeeeeeee, it took up a whole room to itself and you could view it from the top and then walk down a slope and see it from the ground level too. And it was so detailed and intricate, it was really beautiful and took 6 weeks to build. i spent lots of time in this room, admiring it all.

Afterwards we went into the gift shop and Sir bought me some souvenirs of our trip (i'm such a lucky girl) and then we went back into London and had dinner in TGI Fridays and looked round Covent Garden for a while before coming home. A really great birthday and such as lovely surprise treat - thanks Sir :)

Olympics

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i know i'm a bit biased, but i really do think this year's Olympics have been fantastic and i have really enjoyed them. i've watched lots of the sports on the TV, my favourites are gymnastics, athletics, rowing, cycling, swimming and diving. And it's been brilliant to see how many medals Team GB have won (59 and counting) - we're currently third in the medals table, which is something to be proud of. Lots of those medals have come in events that we weren't predicted to get anywhere in, like the men's team gymnastics and the women's boxing. It's been great to sing along with the National Anthem when watching the medal ceremonies and the excitement and patriotism of the home crowd comes through, even on TV.

me, Sir and Poppy were also lucky enough to get tickets to go and watch some of the athletics and i feel very privileged to have been part of it. The Olympics will probably never be held here again in my lifetime, so it really was a once in a lifetime opportunity for us to see it, and the atmosphere was incredible. We only watched heats, but cheering on the GB athletes was very exciting and we got to see quite a few of them make it through to semi-finals or finals. i also liked the way the crowd cheered for every athlete, every winner, and especially those who came last, no matter which country they were from. And there were lots of Mexican waves and fun stuff like that to get involved in. The stadium was brilliant, we were sat near to the flame and had a good view of the finishing line. And the whole event was organised very well and the volunteers and staff were really helpful and efficient.

Just wanted to post on here about the Olympics and how well i think they have been organised here (though i did think it was going to be a bit of a shambles). And i'm looking forward to watching the closing ceremony tomorrow, which if it's anything like the opening ceremony will also be brilliant and very entertaining. i also hope to watch some of the paralympics on TV over the next 2 weeks. And then it will all be over, but we will have the memories, souvenirs and photos forever.

Holidays

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Quick post to say that we're going on a little family holiday to the seaside, from Mon 13th to Sunday 19th August, so see you all when we get back :)

libby
xxxxx

Quick post...

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.... to say that we're back from our holiday, a little earlier than planned as the very hot weather this weekend caused William to have lots of seizures, and it was difficult to find anywhere cool enough for him that would also keep the other kidlets entertained (not much to do cooped up in a hotel room all day, even if it was nice and cool).

But apart from the day of seizures, the rest of the holiday was nice and relaxing and good fun for everyone, the twins had a lovely birthday and it was good to get away as a family for a few days.

We have received the date of Finn's appointment with the behaviour/ADHD specialist (3rd Sept) so until then i guess we just wait and deal with his increasingly explosive temper as best we can. William is becoming more and more obviously autistic with each day and seems to be shutting out the world more, but we are continuing with his therapies, hoping they will make a difference. And Poppy starts school in 2 weeks' time and i don't feel ready to send my little baby girl off to big school, even if she is excited and definitely ready for it. We also have to decide how much 'extra' stuff to enroll her in as she has been identified as 'gifted and talented', and we have been told there will be additional classes and activities on offer to her.

Lots to think about and important decisions to make for all our family. More details to follow, as we know them...

Crazies

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Sorry it's been a while since i last updated this blog, but life got mega crazy for a few weeks and it was all i could do to get through each day. Things seem to be settling down a bit now, so i've finally been able to update my diary and best of other blogs sections in the sidebar, tweet, and am now going to use this post to briefly update everyone on where things are at in the libby household.

- Poppy has started school! i was feeling excited for her, but mainly nervous that she wouldn't enjoy it and sad that my little girl has got all grown up too fast. But she has a really lovely teacher and because it's a small village school there are only 10 children in her class, so i think that will help her to get the individual attention she needs. She skipped into school on her first day and has been very happy about returning each day since, telling us all about what she has learnt over dinner each evening and bringing home various arts and crafts she has made as well as copious notes from the teacher, requests to send things in and such like. The school have already identified Poppy as a 'gifted and talented' child, so she is withdrawn from some lessons to receive special tutorage on an individual or small group basis in order to encourage her to pursue her interests and meet her full potential. Overall, i am very happy with how Poppy is doing at school and everything they are doing for her.

- Finn had a comprehensive assessment with a consultant who specialises in behavioural and attention disorders in young children. It was a long day, consisting of lots of questions, observations and tests, which Finn took part in with his usual enthusiasm and energy, though it was obvious that his hyperness prevented him from attempting most of the tasks sufficiently. Basically i was frustrated because i know he is a bright boy, but it seemed like he wasn't able to show that due to the way the tests were constructed. The upshot of it was that Finn was diagnosed with ADHD-HI, which means that he is primarily affected by the hyperactivitiy and impulsiveness elements, and not so much by the attention problems, though those are still present. The consultant said it was the most obvious case he had seen in a child of Finn's age and he recommended we apply to get him 'statemented' (formal paperwork specifying his special needs and setting out the support he will be given as a result). He also gave us lots of ideas on ways we can try to manage Finn's hyperness and structure his day so that he is able to have some periods of relative calm when he is able to work on more traditional learning tasks. i was very relieved when the consultant said that Finn is clearly super-intelligent and the focus now should be on how to enable him to fulfill his potential despite his ADHD.
Sir and i have discussed the recommendations and have applied to have Finn statemented. We have also compiled a 'sensory and physical diet' plan for Finn, comprising physical activities such as trampolining, running, walking outside and horse-riding which we know calm Finn down, as well as sensory play opportunities such as water play, body brushing, squeezing and weighted objects which also seem to help him concentrate better. Some of these activities are carried out at nursery and some at home and we have just started to try them out this week, but already i think there is a noticeable improvement in Finn so am feeling very optimistic right now.

- William has had a mixed few weeks: good on the seizures front which has meant it has been a while since he had a big one and he has seemed able to recover from the smaller ones quicker than before. This has meant that we have been able to fit in more productive therapy sessions with him and there have been noticeable improvements in his sitting balance and use of his hands. But i can't help feeling that William becomes more autistic every day and it's like he's slowly slipping away from me. His eye contact is definitely worse than it used to be, i can't remember the last time he smiled *at* me and although he still enjoys cuddles be prefers to face away from me and act as if i'm not really there. i know these things are normal for kiddies with autism, but it still hurts when it's my little guy doing them. On top of that his tantrums are getting worse and i'm worried he's really going to hurt himself with his head-banging one of these days. But on the plus side, William's new special needs buggy is working out well and enabling us to get out of the house lots and all of his check-ups have gone well so far (a couple more to go). So, mixed news on the William front.


Well, i seem to have run out of steam here, but just wanted to say thanks for sticking with me and i promise not to leave it so long between posts again!

Auntie libs....

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.... again! Last night i got a phone call to say my sister was going down the hospital because her baby was on its way. Then this morning i got another call to say it was here! A lil boy called Oscar, weighing 6lbs 8oz was born at 8;10am, almost exactly 1 year after his big brother Callum was born. i've seen a couple of photos of him and he is realllll cute, but going to wait till this weekend to go visit to give them some time together.

Very happy start to the week for auntie libs :)

formspring.me #90

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What is your fav safety word?
 
As in my favourite safeword out of all the ones i've ever used? Because i only have one, which is 'red' and was given to me by my Master.
Or my favourite safeword which i've ever heard about? Not sure really.... the idea of having something like 'you bastard!' as a safeword tickles me, but in reality i wouldn't be able to use it and it kind of deflects from the purpose of a safeword, which is to protect the sub from genuine harm. To read more about my thoughts on safewords, see here: http://libbysub.blogspot.co.uk/2007/01/safewords.html

You should post about your children in a clean blog so they can someday see what you've written about them without having to know about your sexual proclivities. Are you sure they are both of your husband's seed?

Firstly, how do you know i don't have other 'clean' blogs about my children? If i did/do i would hardly link to them here, would i?
Secondly, i have 3 children, but 2 of them are twins. And yes i am sure they are all Sir's (rather a rude question, btw) as i do not have any sexual partners except for Sir.

From reading your various blogs posts, I noticed that you are part of a high income household (i.e: £90 000+). Do you believe that your financial situation facilitates your lifestyle (e.g.: dungeon, array of toys, privacy from neighbours, etc)?

i'm not sure where you got the idea that we fall into that income bracket. i do not work and though Sir has a good job, i doubt He earns that much. Though to be honest, i don't actually know His salary. i hate talking about money, i find it quite a vulgar topic, but suffice it to say we are able to live a comfortable, though not lavish, lifestyle. By which i mean, if the kids need new shoes we can buy them without any bother, but if the washing-machine blows up we would need to tighten our belts a bit to be able to afford a new one.
As for whether Sir's salary has facilitated our lifestyle, i don't think it has apart from the fact that we are able to have a private 'dungeon' (not that we get the time to make much use of it these days) and we perhaps have a few more 'toys' than we would otherwise have. But to be honest i would still be just as much of a slave without these pieces of equipment, so i don't think money has that much effect on a M/s relationship.

Thank you so much for your posts. How can I subscribe to your blog?

There's a button in the sidebar for that.

I really like your blog, would you mind if I link to it?

Not at all, i love to be linked to! Also, for those of you out there who have your own blogs, please feel free to send me the link and i will check them out and possibly add them to my feeds or blogroll.

now that your boys are almost 2, and poppy starts pre-k, do you think you will have more kids?
That's something that Sir and i have thought about a lot as we always planned to have 4 children. And i am super broody for another baby after meeting little Oscar this weekend (my sister's new baby boy). The timing just isn't right at the moment, not to mention the fact that we wouldn't have enough time/energy/money to devote to a new little one right now. Poppy is fairly easy as kids go, but William needs a lot of time and attention and his therapies cost a lot of money, plus i'm always taking him to various appointments. Finn has just been diagnosed with ADHD so he needs additional support as well, and we just don't know what the immediate future holds for either of them. i would say that once the boys are in school too we can think seriously about whether to try for another baby or not.


Thanks for all the questions, more responses soon!

Poor neglected blog :(

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i haven't been posting properly on this blog for a while now, or keeping the sidebar updated either. i always feel really guilty when that happens because i know how much i hate it when a blog i like goes quiet, and if it continues for too long then i end up deleting that blog from my reading list.

Also, i've noticed before how blogging about something can help me clarify my thoughts about it - whether it be a problem, a concern, a question, a confusing issue or even just something which has happened in my life. So i think that blogging is therapeutic for me in a way.

Put these two facts together and i have decided that i have neglected this blog for too long and want to do something about it. So i am going to make an effort to post here at least twice a week, about a range of subjects (BDSM and non-BDSM related), reply to questions and comments more punctually and keep my sidebar updated (things like 'my week' and 'best of other blogs').

Please feel free to leave comments and suggestions of what you would like me to post about or how i could improve this blog. And thanks for still reading here!


libby
xxxx

Happy Halloween!

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Saturday we had a Halloween party at our house and invited all the local families, plus Poppy's friends from school, Finn's friends from nursery and William's special needs buddies from the clinic. We had quite a full house! It was a kids' party really, but all the grown-ups came dressed up and enjoyed themselves too. i love Halloween, i think it's such a fun celebration and you can be really creative with all the decorations.

Finn chose a ghostie outfit to wear and spent all week practising his "Boo!" and jumping out on people from behind the door. He was the most excited about the party and requested "spider cakes" (which looked something like those in the photo) and "bat sandwiches" (though in the end we did bat, cat and ghost sandwiches using cookie cutters). We also had jelly with Halloween sweeties in, Halloween 'punch' and other more traditional party food like pizza, sausage rolls and salad. We hid sweeties round the house for the kids to find and put in their collecting buckets and we played 'pass the parcel' and 'musical bats'. We spent ages decorating the house, both outside and inside, and it looked really good when we'd finished. And of course we had plenty of carved pumpkins around the place, which the kids helped me do during the week (though William had a meltdown when a bit of the inside went on his hand).

All in all it was a great party, though lots of work and lots to clean up the next day. But the main thing is that the kids enjoyed themselves, including William who can find parties challenging. And Finn's Halloween obsession is now sated and he has moved onto asking about Christmas (he wants a dinosaur from Santa - "a real one" - which could prove a little tricky. Not quite sure how to explain extinction to a 2-year old......)

Happy Halloween everyone :)
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