
So i went for my first ultrasound scan this week, to get a better 'due date' and got somewhat of a shock when the technician told us that i am expecting twins again.
i knew that i had a higher than normal chance of conceiving twins, due to the fact that non-identical twins happen when a woman releases 2 eggs at once, and that some women tend to do that most cycles. But to be honest i didn't really expect it to happen again, and even when my tummy was showing much earlier than 'normal' i kind of blocked it out and convinced myself it wasn't a sign of twins, especially as i haven't had anywhere near the level of morning sickness that i had with the boys.
But it is twins and after spending the last two days feeling pretty worried and stressed about the whole thing, i am now feeling much more settled and positive. Yes, it will be difficult to have 5 young children. Yes, there will be a lot of nappy-changing and feeding and looking after to do. Yes, it is hard enough to care for newborn twins without having other children in the mix too. Yes, Finn and William require a lot more care and attention than most children their age. So it will be exhausting and difficult to give everyone the amount of time and attention they need.
But Sir and i had a chat and decided that we will hire a nanny, at least for the first year, to help with all 5 of the kids, so that when i am busy looking after the new twins, she can be seeing to Finn and William. When i am spending time doing therapy with Finn or William, she can be caring for the new babies. And she can make sure that Poppy doesn't get left out either. Though Finn and William will be out of the house at least for part of the day, there will be 3 kids to collect/receive from 3 different schools/nurseries, plus plenty of appointments, clubs and therapies to get to, so having someone else who can help with all that will be great. And it will be nice to get some help with cooking, cleaning, laundry, tidying up, shopping, etc., even though the cleaning lady who comes in each week is great, with 5 young kids i know it will get even tougher to keep on top of things.
Last night i was reading up on twins on the internet, just to refresh my memory on some of the pregnancy stuff, and i saw an article on 'vanishing twin syndrome', when twins show up on one scan and then next time there is only one baby. Although i am shocked at expecting twins again and it's not what i would have hoped for, i certainly don't want anything to happen to either of them, and reading that made me feel so protective of my little sprouts and feel so much love for them, that i realised that i should be seeing this as a good thing, i should be feeling blessed to be given twins again and i should be celebrating this event and looking forward to meeting them and making happy plans for their arrival. So that's what i'm going to do. We've sold our house and the paperwork is going through on the one we want to buy, and all going well we should move in later this summer. Then we will have a few months to get everything ready before the babies are born, and our new nanny can start and be a much needed extra pair of hands. Sir is great with the kids and i know He will continue to do everything He can to support our family, financially and practically. We are blessed to have 3 fantastic kids already and i am so lucky to be expecting 2 more.
i am to have my pregnancy closely monitored, with scans every 4 weeks initially. The twins are di/di again like last time, which means they have their own sacs and their own placentas, which is the least risky type of twin pregnancy, but they will also be monitoring closely for any signs of tuberous sclerosis as we have a slightly higher than normal chance of having another child with that condition. To be honest, i'm not really worried about that as i don't think we will end up with another William, but if we do, we do, and we will just cross that hurdle when we come to it and make the best of what we're given. Sir has put me back on the 'Brewer' diet, so i have lots of food to eat (there's boxes that must be eaten and extra snacks that can be eaten) but so far i am realllllly hungry, so that hasn't been an issue.
This morning i was reminded of just how special twins are. William had a big seizure and i was getting him settled for a sleep afterwards, as it really takes it out of him. Finn had stayed with him during the seizure as he usually does and then had zoomed off after, but he suddenly came running back, carrying his all-time favourite toy from Disneyland that he is fiercely protective of (just try getting it off him to wash!). He put his toy in William's cot and said "Rat Rat looks after William", then grinned at me and zoomed off again. i just stood there thinking what an amazing little boy Finn is, how special and precious William is and how lucky they are to have each other. So i am glad that my new babies will get to experience that special twin bond and can't wait to meet them.
Thanks for listening to my ramble :) BTW, i am about 8 weeks 5 days pregnant today, which makes the babies 40 weeks on 13th January. But since twins are considered full-term at 36 weeks, they are expected anytime December-January. Could be an interesting Christmas this year!