But Finn soon settled back into nursery (probably because he had been going on/off throughout the summer) and latest reports from his teacher say that he is doing well and is now much more willing to sit down and 'work' for short periods of time when given access to plenty of physical and sensory opportunities throughout the day. Also he has had absolutely no toilet accidents since going back, which is fantastic considering he only properly potty/toilet-trained during the summer holiday.
William took a while longer to settle back into the school routine, but now is doing well and continuing to work on his physio programme, as well as attending regular speech therapy sessions. Still not a lot of progress on the communication, or other more 'academic' fronts, but we are so pleased with his continued progress in physical skills including walking, standing, sitting, moving around as well as using his hands, so i think that he is using all his energy on those areas at the moment and will probably be able to forge ahead in other areas in the future. i think William will always be one of those children who can only work on one thing at a time.
Unfortunately both Finn and William have started to exhibit new and even more difficult behaviours at home since the return to school/nursery, which has taken quite a bit of work on our part to prevent them from hurting themselves, others or damaging property. But we are starting to get more of a handle on it now, finding new strategies which help and working as a team to support the boys during their individual meltdowns when they happen. The worst times are when they both meltdown at the same time, but fortunately that has only happened once or twice, as emotionally they tend to remain very separate and not be affected by the other.
The bitties are doing very well, really thriving and coming on in leaps and bounds in their development. Ollie in particular is very keen to be physically active and to do as much as he can for himself, so it wouldn't surprise me if he started walking early, just as Finn did. Katelyn remains a very alert young lady, wanting to be involved in everything and not allowing us to leave her out of anything! (Really looking forward to Christmas this year, although it will officially be the bitties' second one i am thinking of it as their first!)
In other news, and actually getting around to the title of this blog post, i find ways to submit to Sir, to show and evidence my submission to Him in small subtle manners, to evidence and act upon the nature of our relationship throughout the day, when He is with me and when He is not, even around the children and our nanny and the constraints of being a housewife and busy mother of 5. Too many things to list them all here, and to be honest most of them are so much a natural part of my everyday life now that i wouldn't be able to think of them all to write them down if i tried, but i will give a few examples:
- waiting for Sir to give me a subtle nod of the head to authorise me to start eating at mealtimes, and busying myself with helping the kidlets and the bitties if He chooses to wait a while before doing so
- sitting or kneeling at Sir's feet during everyday family activities, just because i choose to and want to, and the kidlets and JJ the nanny now accept that this is a 'normal' position for me to opt for
- ensuring that i am at the front door to greet Sir when He returns home from work by listening out for His car pulling into the driveway, with the newspaper and a drink ready on the table next to His chair in the lounge
- phrasing things in such a way that Sir can give me instructions throughout the day or tell me that He doesn't want me to do something, or 'ask' for permission for something, without anyone else around us realising that is what is happening
- using all the toiletries and cosmetics that Sir prefers, choosing nail polishes and lip glosses that i know He likes, keeping my hair cut and styled the way He prefers, wearing clothes that He picks out for me each day, remaining naked in bed and in the evening after the kidlets are safely in bed
- baking the cakes, biscuits and other goodies that Sir likes whenever i get chance to, buying the brands of food i know He prefers, ensuring that there is always a plentiful supply of His favourite foods in the cupboards, making sure that He has a drink next to Him wherever He is, giving Sir alone time when i know He likes it, keeping the kidlets out of His study and off His chair
And yes i know that all (or most) of these things are in the rules, instigated and enforced by Sir, but abiding them keeps me secure within my position as slave, gives me opportunities to practise my submission, feeds my need to serve and please and help. To be honest, i live by the spirit of my rules as well as by the letter of them - i am always looking for ways to go above and beyond the letter of the rules as written and keep to the spirit of them in furthering the ways i can serve Sir.
When i first became Sir's slave i imagined the more 'idealised' version of submission - kneeling naked at Sir's feet at all times, always be wet and ready to please Him, frequent 'play' and training sessions, etc, etc. And while that would be nice, actually what i have now is so much more real than all of that and my life is so much more rounded and complete because of everything else i have in addition to my M/s relationship with Sir.
i hope that i have shown a couple of ways in which i practice 'quiet' submission in my relationship with Sir and how it is possible to be a busy wife and mother as well as a slave. And i am feeling very contented and lucky and complete.
Thanks for reading,
libby
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- baking the cakes, biscuits and other goodies that Sir likes whenever i get chance to, buying the brands of food i know He prefers, ensuring that there is always a plentiful supply of His favourite foods in the cupboards, making sure that He has a drink next to Him wherever He is, giving Sir alone time when i know He likes it, keeping the kidlets out of His study and off His chair
And yes i know that all (or most) of these things are in the rules, instigated and enforced by Sir, but abiding them keeps me secure within my position as slave, gives me opportunities to practise my submission, feeds my need to serve and please and help. To be honest, i live by the spirit of my rules as well as by the letter of them - i am always looking for ways to go above and beyond the letter of the rules as written and keep to the spirit of them in furthering the ways i can serve Sir.
When i first became Sir's slave i imagined the more 'idealised' version of submission - kneeling naked at Sir's feet at all times, always be wet and ready to please Him, frequent 'play' and training sessions, etc, etc. And while that would be nice, actually what i have now is so much more real than all of that and my life is so much more rounded and complete because of everything else i have in addition to my M/s relationship with Sir.
i hope that i have shown a couple of ways in which i practice 'quiet' submission in my relationship with Sir and how it is possible to be a busy wife and mother as well as a slave. And i am feeling very contented and lucky and complete.
Thanks for reading,
libby
xxxx
